Do You Crackle?

I remember the days when nail polish only came in shades of red and pink. Oh, yeah, there were those ugly brown colors too that only your mom would wear. I felt lucky when I could actually find an Electric Pink, because the hot pink shade was not seen on many people. Shades and hues of purple made their appearance. And that felt like hitting the jackpot.

Then recently other colors starting hitting the stores, anything from green to blue to yellow. Now you can find a nail polish in just about any color your heart desires. Since I absolutely LOVE color, I’m a huge fan! Oh, and you can never have too many nail polish colors, because some times the color needs to match your mood.

Someone today made a comment about my teal nail polish. Although I love this color, because it’s different than the reds or pinks, he didn’t seem to like it. I don’t wear this color very often and not to impress him either. So his dislike didn’t bother me. If he feels that strongly about my teal polish, he will absolutely hate the new trend in nail polish.

Crackle, as it’s called, is what the recent fad is for nails. You paint your nails like you normally would. Then you put a crackle nail polish on. And as the name suggests, the polish cracks showing the first color through the cracks in the top coat.

For some reason it reminds me of something you might wear for Halloween. But people aren’t just wearing it for a holiday, they are wearing it all the time. It gives a unique appearance to your fingertips. And if nothing else, people will notice them.

We have all seen nail polish, like a Shrek olive green or a bright pumpkin looking orange that we wonder who in their right mind would wear those colors. Well, those are the perfect colors to put on under crackle. You need to have a bright or vibrant color as the bottom coat, otherwise, you won’t be able to see it through the top coat. For instance, if you have a royal blue under a black crackle, there isn’t too much of a difference in the color for the blue to be distinguishable. You want to be able to see the bottom coat under the crackle. So you need to use a light blue with black crackle or a bright yellow under a blue crackle. Be creative! Pick your two favorite colors and work your magic. Whatever colors you decide make sure the shades contrast enough to make a large impact when they are painted on top of each other.

Crackle is the new trend in nail polish, so try some and see how you like it. If you aren’t sure, try it on your toes first. It may take a week for it to grow on you. Once it does, you are sure to have your nails polished to the nines in it. You can use your go-to red and pink shades or you can break out those bright, vibrant colors that look like you should be wearing them to a rock concert. Better yet, go buy a new shade just for crackle use. You never know when you’ll find your next favorite color. It might even be a brown shade you thought only your mom would wear. I won’t tell her, if you don’t.

Are Your Legs Restless?

Have you seen the commercial? The one where they lady sits in a recliner and her legs move. Then the voiceover comes on talking about restless leg syndrome. Well that is the only time I had ever heard of this condition…until last night.

Last night in a restaurant, an acquaintance, Sue, randomly gets up from the table and stands beside it, using her right hand to massage her thigh. I knew she wasn’t about to leave, because the tab wasn’t paid yet. After her standing there for several minutes, I hear her saying she has restless leg syndrome.

Not knowing exactly what it is, except for the few seconds I remember from the commercial I want to know more about it. “Restless leg syndrome is a disorder in which there is an urge or need to move the legs to stop unpleasant sensations,” according to ncbi.nlm.nih.gov.

Ten years ago when she was first married, her legs would twitch, Sue said. She thought nothing of it, until it started progressing, where they would twitch several times a day. Then when the sensations aroused several times an hour, she knew something wasn’t quite right. She saw a doctor who didn’t properly diagnose it. After several years of suffering, she finally got an accurate diagnosis and medication for it.

There is no set time that the feelings come, and there is no telling how long they last, she said. The medication takes effect quickly and relieves the pain. “It starts in my legs and spreads throughout my body,” Sue said, as she motions up through her stomach, chest, and arms.

If she doesn’t get up when the sensations start, the pain magnifies. But once she stands and moves around, the feelings decrease. “If I was up cleaning or moving, I wouldn’t even know the restless leg syndrome was occurring then. It’s just when I’m still or motionless, that it really starts to hurt,” Sue said.

Restless leg syndrome affects almost 12 million Americans, according to sleepassociation.org. The cause of restless leg syndrome is not known in most patients, and there is not cure for it. There may be a genetic link, because it is known to run in families. If your parents have the disorder, you are more likely to get it, according to sleepassociation.org. If you are having an irresistible urge to move your legs and think you might have restless leg syndrome, don’t wait any longer. Please see your doctor to decrease your pain and discomfort.

The Two Hardest Words To Say

They are only two words, yet somehow most of us find it difficult to verbalize them. Why is it so hard to say, “I’m sorry?” It seems especially so when we need to say them to those that we love most.

When we fight with our family, loved ones, or friends, “I’m sorry” just doesn’t seem easy. We should know that these people will love us no matter what. So these three syllables should roll off the tongue. These people shouldn’t judge us or think of us differently, yet most people tend to speak those words less to them than they would to complete strangers.

I understand that most of us don’t like to be wrong, and by uttering these two words, we are in some way admitting that. No one goes around saying, “I want to be wrong.” The truth is, we just don’t want to be wrong. But really what’s wrong with being wrong? It only means we are human and can make mistakes just like everyone else. No one likes people who come off as perfect. Being fallible makes us destructible, vulnerable and even more likeable.

Many people don’t take responsibility and admit that they might have hurt another person’s feelings or offended her. No one likes her feelings hurt. Sometimes we just need the acknowledgement that’s what happened. But the quicker you want things back to way they once were, you need to take the time, be the bigger person and say, “I’m sorry.” It’s not a cakewalk, but think of the alternative.

It’s a pride thing, I know. But mastering the art of apologizing starts with setting your pride aside. Because if you don’t and the other person doesn’t either, it comes down to a pissing contest and just who can be more stubborn. Then days, weeks and maybe even years can go by without talking. Do you really want that to happen?

I’m not implying for you to apologize if you don’t mean it, because trust me, the other person will know. She will know if it’s genuine. Maybe you need to apologize for your tone, words or that you hurt her feelings, when you know that wasn’t your intention.

Those two words might be some of the hardest words that you utter, but they help with communication. They will take the stress and pressure off the other person and diffuse the situation. Once you do say, “I’m sorry,” be open to the receiver’s response. Maybe it will even allow the other person to see your side, but don’t say “I’m sorry” for any ulterior motive. Do it because you mean it. You just don’t know how it might affect the other person.

“I’m sorry” might be the two hardest words to say. It’s almost as though it actually takes something away from you to apologize. You somehow feel like you’re sacrificing part of yourself by doing it. Maybe it’s the pride you’re giving up or the notion of never being wrong.

Those words may make you feel an inch high when you’re speaking them. They force you to put your stubborn pride aside and admit that you were wrong. But those two words can form a stronger connection, open communication, and allow the love to grow. The more you say, “I’m sorry,” the easier it becomes, and the more respect you will have for yourself as an imperfect person. Soon they may be the easiest words you utter. So don’t be afraid to say “I’m sorry.” They might be the most important words you speak.

The Artist's Mind

It comes around once a year, but the fun and excitement is felt for days after. People come from miles and across state lines to experience the weekend. Grab your kids, spouse, or friends and head to downtown Fort Worth, TX for Main Street Fort Worth Arts Festival.

It’s a time for artists of all kinds to showcase their work, get some recognition, and sell some items. Most are set up in booths to display their talents. Others showcase some of the larger items, like sculptures or twenty feet high blown glass contraptions, outside, because they won’t fit into the ten by ten tents.

Every booth has it’s own unique flair and flavor. Whether it’s jewelry, paintings or ceramics, you will find something for everyone.

One of the booths I enjoyed most last year was an unusual jewelry booth. They take old tins, whether it’s a can, lunch box, or scraps and make unique earrings out of them. I say “unique,” because literally no two sets are equal. Even if they have two tins that are the same, which is uncommon, they don’t cut two sets of earrings identical. They are like nothing I have ever seen before. And I can’t wait to see if they are out there this year and what new earrings they brought with them. When I find something as interesting as this, their reasonable $30 a pair is worth it. You can also visit them at fatcatjewelrystudio.com.

A lot of booths offer paintings and framed drawings. An interesting spin on this is framing dresses. They take baby dresses or young girls’ dresses and dip them in an unknown substance, which helps create a hard outer texture. This way the dress stays in perfect form, as though you could slip a little girl right in it, and it wouldn’t alter the shape or look of the dress. It’s a great way to preserve a baby outfit or keep a favorite memory alive.

As I was walking down the crowded streets of what seemed like thousands of people, I see something hanging about twenty feet in the air. I can’t quite make out what it is until I’m about ten feet away. It’s a ballerina that looks as though she is dancing. The artist has taken twine and literally created a ballerina. This would be perfect for any little girl’s room. Even as I walk away, I’m so enamored by the ballerina, I keep looking back over my shoulder in awe.

Don’t forget the famous food, corn dogs, funnel cake, corn on the cob, and barbeque galore that you will find and your kids will consume, without knowing they have eaten enough for several meals. Oh, and there is plenty of alcohol and drinks too. Those are some of the best reasons for going.

Many interesting sights intrigued me last year. It’s amazing how creative an artist can be and how many ideas that most of us would have never thought of live in their minds. I love the idea of just going to the Arts Festival to see the different talents that exist. And I look forward to seeing what’s in store this year. I’m really hoping my earring stand is there. So from April 14-17, 2011, spend a few hours enjoying the skills of artists in Fort Worth. Make sure you take your pocketbook, because you won’t leave empty handed.

Back to School

Do you remember the Rodney Dangerfield movie, “Back to School?” We all thought it was quite funny, when someone of his age, was actually attending school. Well today it’s not a laughing matter, with people of all ages enrolling in school.

With the recession, many people found themselves without jobs and not knowing how they might find another. This was their prime opportunity to take a chance and discover their true passion. With this in mind, they might have decided to go back to school to learn the new skills set they need or develop the skills they already have.

Since people nowadays know it’s never too late to go back to for an education, colleges and universities across the nation saw a rise in their enrollment, with people of all ages attending. While they are in school, students can apply for grants and loans, which will help them out financially, especially considering if recently they found themselves out of work.

Although the economy is not in the downward spiral we saw a few years ago, there are some careers that you may want to consider if you’re thinking of going back to school or wanting a career change.

I know so many men who dreamt of playing professional ball when they were younger. Since they are adults, they know that dream won’t come to fruition, but there are still ways they can be involved in sports. Coach high schools kids or better yet, become a physical therapist or an athletic trainer. Once you graduate, you can apply to be a trainer for a sports team. You might not be playing, but you will be the next best thing. The bonus with this a career in physical therapy or as an athletic trainer is on the rise.

If social media or the internet in itself is any indication, get into a field that centers around these. With companies knowing the importance of these, whether it’s graphic design, computer systems software engineer, or network systems and data analyst, you are bound to always have a job.

A field that is not dying is nurses. We will always need them. One great benefit is many healthcare companies offer signing bonuses to nurses. Remember although nurses only work three days a week, they work 12-hour shifts, usually 7 am to 7 pm or 7 pm to 7 am. Think about if this is a schedule that appeals to you. Working only three days might makes up for the long shifts. Oh, and don’t forget about the handsomely paid overtime you could make.

If you love working with numbers, a smart option would be majoring in finance. The need for financial advisors and analysts is increasing. You can assist people with their money, investments, and portfolios. Or you can make sure banks and financial institutions are complying with laws and regulations.

If you’re up for a career change or find yourself no longer loving your job, going back to school is always an option. Don’t discover another five or ten years have past, and you still didn’t take the opportunity to love your job. You may not even know what career you want to do or what to major in. But you can always start taking classes in order to narrow it down by saying, “Well, I KNOW I don’t want to do that.”

Just take the first step. You have to start somewhere, and taking different classes may lead you to the career you heart longs for. So cut the rope and set sail, because going back to school may be the answer to why you found yourself jobless in the first place.

To Feather or Not To Feather?

Extensions are a trend that’s been around a while, but the newest hair fad is adding feathers to your hair extensions. Yes, they are actually feathers, usually rooster feathers, which women wear in their hair.

Girls wear these extensions to add color to their hair or to express themselves, showing more of their personalities. The feathers usually range from about 10-18 inches long and come in a variety of bright colors. They are added to the scalp, just like regular hair extensions. You can shampoo, curl and style your hair like normal, but be careful when brushing. If you brush too hard, you will likely yank them out. Not all salons carry them, so make sure you ask before assuming yours does.

Although feathers are the new fad in hair, not everyone agrees with them. “People do it because it’s trendy, but not all trends are good,” hairstylist Rene Baca said.

Think of other hair fads that you are probably glad you didn’t do like shaving the side of your head you part your hair on and leaving the other side long, the infamous mullet or the striped black and blonde hair. I bet you are happy your best friend talked you out of those.

When you’re a hairstylist, telling your client that the fad isn’t appealing doesn’t come easily. “You want to please your client but don’t want your name attached to something unattractive. Referrals are huge in this business.” Baca said.

What exactly does a hairstylist say? Well she can try to talk her client out of getting the feathers. She can offer regular hair extensions as a jumping off point. If the customer wants to show more of her personality, the stylist can suggest changing the color of their hair or doing a more daring haircut.

So the question is, “To feather or not to feather?” Keep in mind the majority of the population who wears this trend are teenagers and adults in their early twenties, still trying to discover themselves and find their voice. If you are out of that age range, you may want to think twice or even three times about doing it. If you need to show your personality more, there are better ways to do it than following a teenager’s trend. Do you really want to be 35 wearing fads that 20 year olds wear? That may say more about you than it does about them and their feather wearing selves.

The Pill Popping Woman Next Door

“Are you on pills,” a guy asked me the other day.

“I’m sorry,” I said, not knowing what he meant.

“These ladies (as he pointed to the ladies sitting next to him) want to know if you are on pills,” he said.

I look at the ladies trying to register in my mind what the man is saying. “You are so friendly and upbeat, we thought maybe you were on pills,” one lady says.

All of a sudden it dawns on me…pills? Oh those kind of pills. “No. This is au naturale. I naturally have a lot of energy. I even try to stay away from caffeine. I didn’t even know what you were talking about when you asked me that, if that gives you any indication that I’m not on them,” I said knowing how naïve I must sound.

With addiction to painkillers now considered a national crisis, “pill popping” is no more a taboo subject. “Prescription drugs are the second most commonly abused category of drugs, behind marijuana and ahead of cocaine, heroin, methamphetamine and other drugs,” according to presciption-drug-abuse.org.

Although “Prescription drug abuse surged 400 percent in the past decade,” according to csmonitor.com, it isn’t as widely discussed as alcohol or other drug abuse. This type of addiction may be seen as safer than other types of drug use, but like recent celebrity deaths, Michael Jackson or Anny Nichole Smith, it can have just as fatal consequences.

Prescription pill addiction tends to not have the same stigma associated with it that their counterpart addicted drugs too.
Think of the image you have when you think of someone addicted to meth or heroin. You might see someone strung out, with rotted teeth or lesions on her face. Prescription pill abuse is easier to hide to the outsider. She might be a stay-at-home mom that lives next door to you, who wears those cute pink trendy sweat suits and always looks so stylish. She isn’t the strung out rooted teeth woman. And she doesn’t see herself that way either.

She never intended to get addicted. She was having back pain after a car wreck. She started taking the pills to alleviate that suffering. Then three months passed. Another six months passed. She is still taking them, but now she is taking them more often because the effects don’t last as long. In a few more months she will take more of them at once. Soon, she will take even more of them and more often.

These prescription drugs are more accessible than other drugs too. All she has to do is go back to her doctor to get more. She makes an appointment, just like everyone else, to her family care practitioner. She doesn’t have to go to a drug dealer. Her doctor gives them to her legally. In her mind, it’s not the same.

And how will all of this affect her kids? Will they start having to be the mom in the house or will they want to try the pills themselves? If parents lead by example, then those are just a few questions this stay-at-home mom will have to answer and resolve within herself.

In the meantime, there are plenty of places where she can get the help she needs. If she does it for herself, her kids, her spouse, or her future…whatever the reason, she just needs to take that step and start somewhere to get back to who she used to be. Because being addicted to pills is not the person she is or wants to be. It’s never too late!

You can always look online for resources or start with www.prescription-drug-abuse.org/ for more information.

Looking for Romance

No matter how romantic a guy is, women always want more. Why is it that men have the pressure of being romantic? Think of Valentine’s Day. Who is usually responsible for planning out the day and making sure there is some romance involved? Men. I don’t know any couple where the woman is in charge of this. It’s up to the men to pull through, be creative and most importantly, be romantic.

Women, if you want your men to be more romantic, maybe you should help him out on occasions and show him how it’s done.

1. Leave little notes. They don’t have to be anything profound, but leave a post-it in his briefcase or on the mirror so he sees it when he goes into the bathroom in the morning. Say, “I’m thinking of you” or “Have a great day.” Just a little something to put a smile on his face and start his day off right. Or it can be X-rated, so he can look forward to it when he gets home.
2. Better yet get him a card. I love cards, especially if there is no special occasion, and it’s just for the heck of it. Getting a card out of the blue is sure to brighten anyone’s mood. Leave it on his car’s dashboard, so he gets it before arriving to work.
3. Buy him tickets. Find his favorite sports team, concert, movie or comedy show. What guy isn’t going to run out and watch one of the most anticipated sequels, Hangover 2? Get him tickets and even better, tell him to invite his best friend. Give him a night out for just the guys. He’ll love you for this one.
4. Surprise him. What’s his favorite sport to play or hobby? Does he play golf? Get him a tee time or new golf balls. Is he a sci-fi nut? Purchase tickets to the sci -fi convention coming to town. Take an interest in what he likes to do, and he will reciprocate the favor.
5. In the house. Of course you can always be more romantic around the house. Wear only your apron and a favorite pair of high heels to cook his favorite meal, knowing he will be home any minute, while you’re still in the kitchen. Create the rose petal path to the bedroom that leads to the bed full of petals. Step out of your comfort zone and dance sexy for him. Put on his favorite lingerie or costume to make his fantasies come true.

Guys may not like to admit it, but they enjoy a little romance in their lives. They shouldn’t be the only ones enticing. They will appreciate and enjoy the effort you make. Not that you need a reason to be romantic with you guy, but you will likely get it tenfold back. If you are like me, you will just enjoy watching the expression on his face…and that will make it all worth it.

Off the Beaten Path

I’ve been fortunate to travel around the world, from South Africa to Ireland, Scotland, Norway, and Prague among others. When most of us travel, we tend to stick with the tourist things to do, sites to see, landmarks, and museums. Do you ever consider doing something besides that or going somewhere that is not in one of those travel books?
Branch out. Some of the most fascinating places I’ve “happened upon” are not found in those books. They aren’t known by foreigners as “must sees,” but they just might be more interesting then the tourist sites.

So, how do you find these little known places?

1. Ask a local. It might sound strange or you may feel awkward, but most of the time, people are more than willing to help you if you ask politely. Yes, even though the French are not known for their kindness, they are actually quite nice. You need to respect them and look at it from their perspective. If they were to come here, you would expect them to speak English to you not French. So, when you go there, if you don’t know any French, find out a few key French phrases like, “Hi, how are you?” or “Can you please help me?” or “Hi, do you speak English?” They will know you are trying and be more willing to help you.
2. Stay in a hostel. You don’t have to stay there, because you are broke. A hostel gives you a great chance to meet other travelers who can tell you some of the best places to see or places to go. A lot of them are students or backpackers who have done extensive research before their trip. They know the places you must hit before leaving.
3. Research. There are some great blogs and websites that are designed by individuals and not travel magazines. Do a Google search for (your) destination websites. Country natives create their own sites in order to help travelers. Many of these sites not only provide information on where you must go but also the best method for travel and cost of different activities.
4. Contact local tourist information. Many tourists don’t take advantage of the city’s tourist information spot. They not only tell you the main attractions, but they give you other not so touristy spots and hours of operation, if needed. They will know more than your hotel on what to do off the beaten path and the best transportation options. They will also know smaller companies who offer similar excursions for a more economical rate.
5. Dine at the mom and pop restaurant and visit your local café. All the places I’ve traveled to, I’ve gone to small restaurants. I want to try the traditional food of the locals. Remember in Europe, it’s not uncommon to spend three hours for a meal. They relax and enjoy their meals as opposed to rushing to eat just to go somewhere else. Also cafes in Europe are different than coffee shops you may know. Even if you are not a big coffee drinker, these are a “must visit.” Have a pastry or hot tea. They are typically full of people and opportunities to ask them the little known places that every tourist must visit.

Taking advantage of the path many tourists don’t may provide you with the most thrilling experience of your whole trip. You might happen upon a romantic view, a historical building, or a fascinating place you would have never found on your own. The opportunities to find these places exist before you arrive as well as during your trip there. Make sure you don’t let them pass you by, because these off beaten paths are chances you don’t want to miss…they might just be the ones you really came to see.

HOW TO IMPRESS AT AN INTERVIEW

You have done the work. You spent countless hours sending out resumes and finally landed the necessary interview. Now you want to make a good first impression at your interview. What exactly constitutes a good first impression?

1. Dress appropriately. Even in today’s more casual offices, you should always wear a suit to an interview. If your suit is from the 90’s, go out and buy a new suit. Styles have changed so much, it’s time to update your wardrobe. This could be the difference between your getting the job and them not taking you seriously.

2. Be early. Respect their time. If you are on time, then you are late. So, be early but not too early. What’s too early? More than ten minutes is considered too early. You don’t want them thinking you have all the time in the world and nothing going on in your life. If you arrive earlier than ten minutes, sit in your car and relax until you need to go inside.

3. Do your research. There is nothing that will make you look less prepared, then the interviewer asking you a question about his company or industry and you not knowing what he is talking about. You can entice him by providing this information, while answering a question, without having to be led to it, which will make you appear knowledgeable. You also need to have questions that you will also ask the interviewer at the end. So think of these ahead of time.

4. Be polite to the receptionist. She is your first contact with the company, so smile and be courteous. You never know who she is. She could be filling in for the receptionist who is at lunch and might be the one interviewing you. Or she could be related to someone who works there. Either way, she talks to other people at the company, and you want her to say only good things about you.

5. Have a good handshake. There is nothing worse than meeting someone who doesn’t know how to properly shake another person’s hand. It infuriates me, even in my personal life, when I meet someone, and she gives me the limp or finger handshake. It tells a lot about a person’s personality. It is difficult for the other person to warm up to you once he is off put by your handshake. Make sure you have a firm, confidence handshake. If you don’t know if yours measures up, practice with a friend.

Most of us are nervous going to a job interview. We want to present our best to who could be our future employer. In order to
calm your nerves, have the above tips mastered. You will be in front of the competition, and well on your way to landing that job you’ve dreamed about for so long.

Looking Good, Feeling Good

We all have those days where we just don’t feel like we look that great. Maybe our hair screams “Out of control” or you aren’t in the mood the wear the same makeup again. Even though you have 15 different shades of eyeshadow, it seems like you wear them over and over again. Your skin my feel too dry or you know the unmistakable under the skin blemish is about to appear. When you look better, you feel better.

You can go get your hair done, enjoy a medi/pedi, or get that much needed massage. You can also do a little retail therapy. But let’s face it there is no such thing as “a little” retail therapy, and this is probably the worst time for you to go shopping. Once you start, you have to hit every one of your favorite stores, “just to look.” Then ten stores later, you leave with ten different bags. And the next month wonder why your credit card bill is so high.

I’m not suggesting you go to the spa or into credit card debt to feel better. Looking better to feel better doesn’t have to cost much money. Here are some tips:

1. No matter how you feel or what you are doing today, get dressed. There are days when you feel lazy and just want to lounge around the house. That is understandable, but you still need to make the effort to get dressed. Being in your sleep attire at 6 p.m. doesn’t help the mood. Getting dressed will make you feel more productive then staying in your sleepwear, and that productivity changes your outlook.

2. Build your self-confidence. Look in the mirror and tell yourself what you like about you. This may sound cheesy, but we all forget what makes us who we are. Think about your positive attributes. Sometimes we need to reiterate to ourselves what makes us unique or what people like about us and why they enjoy our company.

3. Smile. It’s truly amazing the affect smiling can have on our mood and our perception. You know that saying it takes more muscles to frown than to smile. Well, sometimes, you have to consciously make the effort to smile, especially when you are in one of those moods. Think of something funny you saw on TV, a joke, or sing your favorite song. Or think of that banter you have with a friend and how you actually enjoy it or how you fell at the store the other day. You will be genuinely smiling in no time.

4. Instead of shopping, go inside your closet. Look at all the clothes you already have. We tend to have our go-to shirt, pants, or look. How about creating another favorite outfit? What about that black and white shirt that you always wear with jeans or black pants. Pair it up with that red skirt.

Accessorize your outfit to tie in the colors. Put on those red dangle earrings and red heels. Or wear the black slacks but wear that turquoise belt and shoes. Spice up the same outfit by adding a splash of color, which will brighten any mood.

Wear those open toed “rocker” shoes that zip at the angle with your favorite off the shoulder blouse. Create a new look and know that no matter where you wear it, you will be dressed in style.

5. Make your own at home spa treatment. You can find foot scrub and lotion along with the necessary tools at a variety of drug and beauty stores. Also pick up facial supplies and your nail polish color. You are making a day of it. It may not be the same as having someone else rub your feet, but even when you do the job yourself, your feet reap the benefits.

6. Contact your best friend. There is nothing that a conversation with your best friend can’t make better. You don’t have to discuss anything in depth, just the sound of her voice will make you happier.

7. Write down five things you are grateful for. This can become a daily habit for you. It puts the stresses of daily life into perspective, when you realize all that you have and what really matters to you.

We all want to look our best everyday, but some days we just aren’t feeling it. These simple ways can get you looking and feeling good no matter your mood. When you change your perspective or start thinking more positively, your outlook will change. When that happens, you will know that even if your hair is too frizzy today or your skin isn’t feeling up to par that you do, in fact, look good. And when we look good, we feel good!

Dying To Fight

This morning as I drove back from taking my ten-year-old nephew to school, something unmistakably caught my attention. Granted it was earlier than when I’m used to being up and around, but what I heard stopped me in my mid-thinking tracks.

In Fort Worth, a teenager died from fighting during school. On Friday, apparently the 15-year-old and his 16-year-old fighting opponent left between classes and went directly across from the school to hash out their differences.

Due to the teenager having breathing problems or possible cardiac arrest, the paramedics were called. They took the student to an area hospital, where he died according to dallasmorningnews.com.

The police are still working on the exact cause of death.

How does this happen? How does a student leave for school and not make it home. Yes, it possibly could have been his heart, but other deadly fighting cases exist too. For instance a 13-year-old died after getting hit in the head during a fight, according to freelibrary.com. Another 16-year-old passed away from being beaten to death, according to chicagobreakingnews.com.

It happens all over the country, but what brings fighting to this level? I’m not a guy, so I don’t know what it’s like to fight or want to fight, but what is society teaching boys? Kids need to stand up for themselves, but not at the risk of killing someone else. That is something that can never be taken back. And that is something the kid who survives has to live with for the rest of his life. What kid wants that on his conscience? What kid deserves that?

Does society teach our kids that it’s okay, even acceptable to fight? Think of how popular UFC, Ultimate Fighting, Championship, is. It’s worth over a billion dollars. Kids look up to their heroes and sports players. They want to be like them. Adults may enjoy watching these fights, but do they want their children to incorporate what these fighters do into their young lives?

Is fighting with your fists really the answer? That’s something that every parent teaches their boy in one way or another. How does a child stand up for himself without fighting? No parent wants his child to be on the receiving end of a bully. Maybe instead of fighting, society should focus on how best to get along with other kids. They are probably just as insecure as every other child. Or another option…walk away. It may not show a student’s strength or how “hard core” he can be. He will, however, when he chooses this option have his dignity, the knowledge that he did the right thing, and his conscious that he didn’t brutally hurt someone else. But more importantly, he will have his life. And for that, you will be glad he chose to walk away.

HEART BREAK AND ANGER

We have all had our hearts broken at one time or another. Whether we liked someone and he/she didn’t like us back or someone broke up with us, we felt the pain.

At times, it’s difficult to distinguish between the hurt and the anger. It may get convoluted where you don’t know when the hurt stops and the anger begins.

I’m not implying that it’s right or fair, but we all deal with that hurt in different ways. This pain is magnetized if you had a relationship with someone, and it didn’t work out the way you wanted or expected. Imagine thinking you are on the same page as he is, then finding out, once you’ve invested time and your heart, that he doesn’t want the same thing you want or he “just isn’t ready.”

I recently read Steve Harvey’s book, “Straight Talk No Chaser.” In it, he says that a man is defined by three things: who he is, what he does, and how much he makes. If any one of these three things is missing, then he is going to spend his time finding that and not the time on YOU that you need.

Yes, I know…he should have figured this out a long time ago. Why would he keep going out with you if he didn’t want what you want? There are many explanations for this. Maybe he didn’t know what he wanted. Maybe he thought he wanted one thing and realized that he wasn’t being true to himself. Maybe he was scared to discover what he really wants. Maybe, maybe, maybe. You can keep your wheels turning and continue the conversations in your head or if you really want to know, you need
to ask him, and trust he will tell you the truth.

We have all heard the stories of people, or at least seen “When Harry Met Sally,” when Sally’s ex gets married right after he and she break up. Sally says, “But she’s supposed to be the transitional person. She isn’t supposed to be ‘The One.’ The fact is he just didn’t want to marry me.”

The truth is he may marry the very next person he dates. As hard of a reality as that is, yes, sometimes guys just don’t want to marry you. I know you are an amazing person, but that doesn’t mean you are the “right” person for him. And that doesn’t mean he is the “right” person for you.

He needs to be at a place in his life where he is ready…ready and willing to find “The One.” He also has to have an open mind and heart. If he doesn’t, and you come along, the timing will not be right and things will not happen the way you want or expect. And you will be the only one disappointed with that.

Yes, you may get hurt. Yes, you may twist that hurt into anger, not understanding his motives or actions. But take it as a blessing. You may not be the right person for him, but more importantly HE may not be the “The One” for you. And if that’s what your searching for, it’s better to know that now than once you’ve invested even more time in him or the relationship that you thought you wanted.

Think of where you would be if you got everything you wanted in life right when you wanted it? Would you be with someone else? In a completely different job or city? Would you be miserable? This hurt may be what saves you from the biggest mistake of your life. There is something or someone bigger and better in store for you.

Work through the pain and try not to be angry, because it’s not about you. It’s about him. Unless he is psychotic, not many people set out to intentionally hurt people. He is doing what he thinks is best for himself. I’m sure if it were you, you might have done things differently, but not everyone acts the same way you think they should.

Don’t make assumptions or go through different scenarios in your head. It will only drive you crazy and keep you from moving on…which is exactly what you need to do. You need to move forward the best you can. One small step at a time. Stop looking at his Facebook page. Don’t text him or email him. Whatever it is you need to do for you, do it!

Why do some guys still want to be friends after they break up with you? With most girls it doesn’t work that way. We don’t downshift that fast. We have too many emotions involved to be able to go from, “Hey we are romantically involved and I just saw you naked two nights ago,” to “Hey now we are just buddies, let’s go grab a beer and that’s it.” Even if we never had sex with the guy, we tend to be driven by the heart, so being friends isn’t a viable open right away. Because let’s be honest, you don’t see him as “just a friend.” You are still wanting more. If he still wants to be friends, let him know that isn’t possible right now. Some women want to keep talking to the guy, because they still want to hold onto the possibility that some thing might happen in the future. This just gives you false hope.

Years ago, I went out with a guy for about a month. Little did I know he still liked me months later. Then several more months passed, he and I started talking and we became the best of friends. We talked about anything and everything. There was no subject off limits and our conversation always flowed. We were so close, we traveled to Italy together. If you didn’t know better, you would have thought we were a couple. But the thing is, we needed that time after we went out to get to this place. We couldn’t have done it right after things ended. There were still too many emotions involved.

You control your emotions. Don’t hold onto that pain and anger, because it’s only hurting you. So give yourself that time, and be patient. Don’t rush through it. Spend time with your friends. Even if your heart is not 100% in it, go out with other guys. Maybe along the way, you will meet someone you enjoy even more. And referring to your ex, you will think, “Oh…what’s his name?”

And if it’s meant to be…it will.

HISTORY AND CULTURE ABOUND

Do you need to getaway? Are you starting to plan your summer vacation? Looking for somewhere exciting to go?

We all hear, at one time or another, about Greek mythology, Zeus, Troy or the Trojan horse. So many dreams have come to fruition by the Olympic Games making their debut here. Go experience the culture and history of Greece!

When you set foot in Athens, your life will never be the same. You will experience ancient times that can’t be taught through a book or felt in a movie.

Athens, the capital of Greece, populates almost 3.7 inhabitants, according to wikipedia.com, and there is plenty to see and do.

The book “1,000 Places to See Before You Die” says two must-see places lie in Athens, The Acropolis, the most famous landmark in Greece, according to wikipedia.com, and The National Archaeology Museum.

A sight that will be unforgettable in your mind , The Acropolis, meaning the “highest city” in Greek, lies in Athens at 490 feet above sea level on a flat top rock. In time of war, having your defense at this level gave you a unique advantage over your enemies. The Acropolis encompasses the Parthenon, a Doric temple that is the largest of its kind in Greece. It is considered by many, “The Most Important Ancient Monument in the Western World,” according to the book.

The National Archaeology Museum “holds more masterpieces of ancient Greek art and sculpture than any other museum in the world,” according to the book. Collections include a room of Byzantine gold jewelry, a 15th century mask of a bearded kind, and Thira. The Thira collection includes pottery and artifacts from the island of Santorini.

The Temple of Olympian Zeus is also a must-see. A thunderstorm, about a century ago, brought down most of this temple except the column that remains today. Once here, you must venture to the 1896 Olympic Stadium (Panathinaiko Stadium) nearby.

For a great view of Athens, go to Lycabettus Hill by walking or railway. Make sure you take the time to enjoy the views along your way to the top.

If your heart desires museums, Athens holds other great ones too, the New Acropolis Museum, Benaki and Cycladic Art Museums, Agora Museum, and Kanellopoulous and Folk Art Museums.

I don’t know about you, but when I travel, food occupies my mind. I love trying traditional food of locales. In Greece, try souvlaki’, which is mainly grilled meat and tzatzki, which is yogurt with garlic and cucumber. Oh, also don’t forget to try a real Greek gyro. I’m sure they won’t compare to the American version you have had.

If you seek history and culture, Athens possesses the perfect mix. Museums and architectural landscapes abound the city.
You won’t leave wanting more, but you will depart with more knowledge and understanding of this ancient world that so many only “see” through school books or movies. You will experience firsthand what it must have been like to live during ancient times. When you leave, your life will be enriched because of it.

IT'S NEVER TOO LATE

So you want to change careers? Are you frustrated with your current job? Do you want to find your passion in life? It’s never too late to start. You may not know where to even begin…but you just need to start, somewhere.

First, don’t quit your current job until you know what you are going to do for your next. Especially in today’s economy, you don’t want to be stuck without any money coming in. If your boss isn’t the greatest or if you are stagnant in your position, you’ve held out this long. You can survive a little longer. Don’t take any drastic measures without first thinking things through.

Next, take a class. If you don’t know what you want to do, eliminate what you don’t want to do. You may know that your passion isn’t accounting, public relations, or statistics. You may not know that you have a love of painting or acting until you take that type of class. Get out of your own way. Step out of your comfort zone!

Research, research, research! Think outside the box. You may have always wanted to play sports. Now you may know that you can’t play pro ball, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be a high school coach or a physical therapist for a professional team. Ask around and look online. There are so many jobs and professions, you might have never considered.

Get Involved! Whether you volunteer for your church or another non-profit, it allows you to meet people and help a worthy cause. Start playing a recreational sport. There are clubs or groups for just about any of them, soccer, dodgeball, volleyball, football, etc. Look around and there is one where you live during every season of the year.

Finally, they say it’s all about whom you know. It’s also about who knows you. Networking is just what you need. Join organizations and associations in the fields you are interested in. You learn about the industry and find out how you can help. You never know who knows whom and who is looking for a new employee. You might just meet some great friends out of it.

Don’t waste any more time at that desk job that you hate so much, you have to drag yourself out of bed each morning. Or even though it’s Monday, you look forward to Friday and count down each day waiting for the weekend. That’s no way to spend your life. It’s never easy changing careers, but if you have the drive to find your passion, you can do it. It also helps to have a great support system. It’s never too late to be living the life you want and the one you deserve.

Find the career you love. Get out of your own way. Step out of your comfort zone. Think outside the box. Discover. Dream. Never give up. And it will become your reality!

CLASSIC, CRISP, SEXY WHITE

It’s that time of year again! When you can look into your closet, and pull out the color you’ve been waiting ever-so-patiently to wear…white!

When I see a woman in a pair of classic, crisp white pants, I always think how great and sexy she looks. The rest of her could look like she just woke up, but those pants somehow transform her into a fashionable, appealing woman. And who doesn’t want to be that!

Unlike most pants though, white is a very tricky color to wear. Everyone can wear some type of white slacks, but what you must realize is that you HAVE to make sure they are the perfect pair for you. Like all pants, not every style looks great on everyone. But with white, there is no hiding anything. If the cut, size or style is not right, you will immediately see it. And as wonderful as white can look, it can look just as bad if you don’t pick the right pair for you.

Here are some tips for picking the perfect pair of white pants for you:

1. Make sure they are not see-through. If you are looking for a pair of white pants, wear the appropriate undergarments, so you know what they will look like after you buy them. Many white fabrics are thin and can be see-through. If they are “a bit” (and only a bit) see through, you can make sure they have back pockets to cover up what you might see on the backside. I think with all white pants, you should have back pockets, but that’s my preference. If you can completely see through them, they are not worth buying.
2. Straight-legged pants are great! Since white tends to not hide anything, you don’t want pants that are extra tight where they shouldn’t be. Straight legged pants will fits through the hips but not snug the thighs, which is a weak spot for many women. Remember, white pants are classy. Skin tight pants hugging your untoned thighs are not classy.
3. Just about any material in white looks good. And the great thing about white is it goes with everything, so you know you already have a ton of tops in your closet to go with the pants. So pick out a material that feels good to you. You don’t have to worry about white wool pants, because that’s pretty much a contradiction. Blend materials are always a safe bet.
4. Matching whites. You know how hard it is to match two blacks together. Well, it’s just as difficult matching whites. No two shades of whites are the same. So if you think you might want a white jacket to go with a pair of white slacks, buy a suit. The likelihood that you will find a white jacket to exactly match your white pants is slim to none. And like with blacks, when the shade is just a little bit off, it screams, “We do not match!” You want people to relish your white not have it negatively screaming at them.

‘Tis the season for wearing white! The time of year seems to last the shortest, so don’t wait to wear those white pants, you’ve been wanting to put on for months. Don’t forget at the end of the season, go buy a new pair, on sale, for this time next year. Because white won’t go out of style. Nothing feels better than wearing a brand new pair of white pants. So have the confidence when you put them on, because when others look at you in your white slacks, they think classy, sexy, and “Where can I get those?”

REMEMBERING THE CELEBRITIES WE LOVE

It seems in the past few weeks, we have heard of several celebrity deaths. My mom always used to tell me that things happen in threes, and it proves true here. Liz Taylor, DJ Megatron, and Nate Dogg all died within 12 days of each other. None of their deaths are related.

Nate Dogg, whose first hit single in 1994, “Regulate,” with Warren G. reached #2 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart. He worked regularly with Tupac on his music. Nate Dogg was “featured in and contributed to over 40 chart singles,” according to wikepedia.com.

Nate Dogg had health issues a few years ago, having had two stokes in two years. He died on March 15, 2011 of congestive heart failure.

Many of us knew of the Hollywood legend, Liz Taylor, in one way or another, whether it was her famous roles in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? or Cleopatra or her eight marriages. Her beauty was so apparent that when she was married to Richard Burton, she gained weight so she would stop getting offered roles. She wanted to concentrate on her marriage.

Maybe you remember her “White Diamonds” commercials, where she takes off her earrings and puts them down on a table and says to a guy “These have always brought me luck.” She died of congestive heart failure. Although she is missed, she will live on in our hearts through her unmistakable beauty and talent.

DJ Megatron, best known as a BET host, was shot in the chest in New York City’s borough, Staten Island, yesterday morning. He was on his way to the store, but little other information is known in his murder. “No arrests have been made,” according to longislandpress.com.

DJ Megatron, whose career was built from hip hop and R & B radio stations, leaves behind three kids and a fiancé. Police are investigating and searching for witnesses.

The hip hop and rap world has suffered two loses in less than two weeks and the world is mourning a legend. With Elton John dedicating “Hero” to Elizabeth Taylor and The Game releasing “All Doggs Go To Heaven” for Nate Dogg, we might feel a little comfort in knowing we are not alone, and that it will take time to heal.

GOING FOR COFFEE

In today’s world, it seems like going for coffee is almost a pre-date. It’s not really the equivalent of what dinner and a movie used to be. It’s almost as though it’s a test. If you pass, then you move on to an actual date.

Going for coffee should take the pressure off both of you. You will be able to be yourself and relax a bit more than if you knew you were going to dinner. Coffee, after all, can be as short as 30 minutes or as long as you want. Dinner, you know you will be there for over an hour.

I went on a dinner date not that long ago, and I knew from the beginning the chemistry wasn’t there. I also knew that I was going to give it time to see if it could develop. Sometimes chemistry doesn’t happen right away, so I thought maybe after talking for a little while, it may rise at least a little bit. It was a struggle to keep the conversation flowing. People who know me would find this hard to believe, because I am a question asker. I am interested in people and enjoy finding out how they have come to be. But there comes a time when I don’t want to be the only one asking questions. There were awkward moments of silence, covered up by the loud bar/restaurant he had chosen. I waited to see how long it would take for him to say something. After a while, this got old…fast. He would eventually chime in, but by then I was more occupied with the sports game that was playing behind him.

When talking to someone who you just meet is this difficult, the future doesn’t seem promising. Yes, people can be nervous, but you also have to be yourself, in order to be able to spark any interest from the other person. Don’t look like you are on a job interview. My date sat straight up and was very stiff. He didn’t look comfortable or relaxed.

We hear that men are simple…simple creatures. We women are not, or that’s what men think, although I beg to differ. Many women I know, myself not excluded, tend to analyze and overanalyze even the smallest things. So we are analyzing the way you talk, sit, and stand. We are wondering what your gestures or lack of them mean. More importantly, if we like you, we want to know what you think of how the date went. You said this or you implied that. What do you mean by this? Is it a good or a bad thing? Even though we may never know the answers, it doesn’t keep us from asking ourselves those questions.

No matter where a woman goes initially with a guy, whether it’s for a drink or dinner, she will put her analytical skills to use. And just so she isn’t in a situation, where she is screaming, “I would rather be at home watching ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ than here,” coffee is always a great start. Try to have low expectations when you first meet a guy. That way, it will always exceed them. If it doesn’t go well, you can get to Grey’s that much faster. If it does, which I hope it goes better than you think, then coffee can always turn into a longer conversation or off to something more fun! Keep a posit

YOUR FREE TIME OUTSIDE THE BOX

Looking for something fun to do this weekend? Are you tired of going to dinner and then a movie? Well, it’s time to think outside the box.

You were cooped up indoors for the winter. Now the spring weather is inviting you to join it in an outside adventure. What has your soul, heart or body longed to do for so long? Have you wanted to try an adrenaline rush or a new adventure? Now is the time to do it. Don’t wait any longer!

If you are looking for a little adventure, try something a bit out of your comfort zone. Jump on a 4-wheeler, and go tracing through the fields, woods or open land. You can create your own track and drive like you are a contestant in NASCAR. Or climb on the back of a horse, and let the animal take you on a journey. If you’re a competitor like me, it’s enjoyable to be able to slowly walk alongside someone, and then seconds later to race that person on his/her horse, knowing your horse is so much better than the other one. Of course, there is no bias there either.

Want a little workout? Don’t go walk around your block, grab your loved one, find a trail and go on a hike. Or do a little research and go rock climbing. Yes, you can probably do this at your nearest mall or sports center. But I mean, go and actually rock climb outside. There are groups you can join and places to do this outside. One time will not be enough; you will want to keep rock climbing. Once you get a taste of it, it’s addicting. It gives you a boost of energy, and when you are finished you feel a huge sense of accomplishment.

If you aren’t scared of heights, you have a ton of options. My personal favorite, you can take your favorite person, whether it’s a significant other, your sister or best friend, on a hot air balloon ride. You can create romance or fun, while you see the city from another perspective. This ride is one that can’t be duplicated and one you won’t forget. You can also relax while you parasail above an ocean. This allows you peace and quiet, while you see the beauty from another point of view. Make sure your camera has a strap attached, so you can securely take it up with you. You want to make sure you catch these moments.

Are you seeking adrenaline? You probably have already thought about bungee jumping or skydiving. If you have already done it, try it again, but in a different way. Try bungee jumping from a higher spot or get trained to skydive solo. If you want something brand new, get certified to scuba dive or go on a shark dive. Yes, I said a shark dive. It may sound a bit frightening, but if adrenaline is what you seek, then shark diving is right up your alley. There is no experience quite like it, and you will be talking about it for years, looking forward to the time you can do it again. But make sure you buy an underwater camera. You can’t afford to miss those close ups of the sharks.

Whether you go horseback riding or shark diving, make sure you take advantage of the spring weather. Before you know it, it will be summer, and all you will want to do is stay inside with the air or be in the pool, lake or ocean. This is the right time to get out and soak up the weather, as you are exploring different activities and yourself. Don’t wait! This is the perfect weekend to get started. ENJOY THE FUN!

SELLING YOURSELF

How much time do you spend selling yourself? No matter if you are looking for a new job, having a meeting with your boss, or networking, you may not be aware of it, but you are selling yourself. These interactions may lead to that new job or your boss giving you a promotion or meeting a new client.

You may not have majored in marketing; therefore, you never had to take a sales class. You don’t consider yourself a salesperson at all. You just don’t have “that personality.” But everyone needs to be a salesperson, because you are always selling yourself. There are several ways you can master selling yourself:

1. Always dress the part. There are days that you just don’t feel like going to work. Or days that you are so tired, you want to sleep an extra 15 minutes, so you won’t do your hair. You always want to look your best, because you don’t know what that day has in store for you. Maybe you are meeting an unscheduled client that will bring in business for the next three years. You want to look and be prepared.

2. Have the right attitude. When you are going to a networking event, don’t be a wallflower. You are there to meet people and introduce yourself. Don’t stand in the back alone and not talk to anyone. That defeats the whole purpose. Make yourself known. Have the courage and go up to strangers. They aren’t going to be rude or not talk to you. That’s how they become friends or possible future coworkers.

3. Be passionate. Love what you do and do what you love. If you aren’t then be passionate about what you are doing. Become interested. Research more, and maybe you will find an undiscovered treasure that you can apply to your job. When you have that next great idea at work, make sure you present it with enthusiasm and passion. You might be amazed at how far these can go in selling your idea and you.

4. Know what’s going on in the industry. If you know what is happening in your industry, with your competition, and with your own company, you will be able to talk with anyone. You can offer your suggestions or counter someone else with what your biggest competitor is doing and how you can do it better. You will look like you keep up with the trends and are interested in helping your company achieve better success.

5. Join social networking sites. If you are not on Linkedin, Facebook or Twitter, join them. Some companies look at your Linkedin profile when hiring. You may not have time to be on different social media sites, but really how much time does it take? Two minutes? Three minutes? Everyone can find two to three minutes in his/her day for social media. Companies know that social media is not the future, it’s the now. And you should too.

If you ever think, it’s not about selling yourself, think again. Even in your personal life, it’s about selling you. If you are at a store wanting to find an item, the clerk will likely help more efficiently when you are nicer to him. You may get a five minute longer massage, because you asked the masseur about her personal life. The agent may give you a better deal or find a coupon, because you treated him like he was a real person and not someone there to “serve” you.

You are constantly selling yourself. Put some thought and effort into this job. Once you excel at it, you can surpass other interviewers for a new job, meet with your boss without reservations, and network with the best of them. So make sure you have the necessarily skills to make the best impression you can, because you never know what the unknown reward might be and how you can benefit from it.

SPRING'S BRIGHT COLORS

For me, this time of year dominates clothes with the bright, fun colors. There is nothing like putting on a turquoise shirt or hot pink slacks. Of course, you have to have the personality to go along with your clothes to pull it off successfully. And that confidence is within all of us.

We all have those days, the ones where we feel a little less than our best selves. We may just want to lie in bed all day. Or when we look in the mirror, we just don’t feel like we look pretty. Our hair won’t do what we want it to do, our skin is less than perfect, and bags may be appearing under our eyes. We know what they days look like. When they arise, the day drags on and on, for what could be eternity in our minds.

If you’re like me, when you look in your closet, some days you think, “Wow, I have so many great things to wear. What shall it be today?”

Then a week later, you look at the same things and think, “I don’t have a single thing to wear. What am I going to wear?”

I know, it’s all about perspective, because nothing in your closet has even changed. Yet now, you can’t find anything to wear. When you have these days…these days when you just don’t feel yourself or “there is nothing to wear,” pull out the brightest pair of pants or the most fun shirt and arrange your wardrobe around this one item. Take out those hot pink pants and browse your shirts. What shirt would have you walking around thinking, “Thank goodness my outfit looks good today, because it’s making up for the rest of me!”

Maybe that semi-sparkly gray shirt with a thin white long sleeved shirt over it would make the perfect outfit! That will do the trick. And to top off the fabulous creation, there is nothing better than some sparkly chandelier style hot pink earrings with hot pink bow heel shoes. Now you are talking!

A bright colored shirt or pair of pants can get any girl in the mood to face the day. And when people look and comment on how much they love your outfit, you will smile, knowing that they aren’t even noticing that you may look a little less than your best, because your wardrobe makes up for any imperfections you may be feeling. And when they say, “Oh I love your hot pink pants” or “I love your sparkly shirt,” you forget yourself that today you don’t look your hottest! Because those bright colors, hot pink, lavender, plum, bright yellow, emerald green, of Spring can overcome any blue mood.

SURVIVING A NATURAL DISASTER

What happens after a natural disaster strikes, and you survive?

In Japan, rescuers still discover bodies left ten days ago by the 9.0 earthquake, which then ignited a tsunami that destroyed the northeast coast. Police said over 15,000 have been killed by these disasters, with more than 20,000 missing or dead in total.
But some people, miraculously, are still being found. An 80-year-old grandma, Sumi Abe, and her 16-year-old grandson, Jin Abe, were discovered today on the roof of their destroyed house. Until now, Jin Abe had not been able to climb out of the debris to seek help. They were both wrapped in several blankets to keep warm and survived on food from their refrigerator. Jin and Sumi were both taken to a hospital.

“I always believed they were alive," Jin’s father, Akira Abe, said, according to msnbc.com.
Rescuers are still searching for more missing people, hoping they might find some additional miracles in a time of turmoil and grief.

Haitians can empathize with the Japanese. A year after a 7.0 earthquake struck Haiti, they mourn the ones they lost and celebrate the lives still left.

“We've had an earthquake, hurricane, cholera, but we are still here, and we are still together," said Charlemagne Sintia, according to news.yahoo.com.

With this natural disaster hitting Haiti’s capital Port au Prince, where a third of the country’s population lives, the death toll was over 316,000. Over a million of its residents remain homeless, living in camps, unable to afford homes.

Debris is still being cleared away and the landscape resembles the same as it did after the earthquake, since the reconstruction efforts have yet to begin on the much-needed areas.

Although rescuers are still finding bodies, more than a year after the earthquake, people remain positive.
"God blessed me by taking only one of my cousins that day. Our house collapsed but we have health and life," said Terez Benitot, according to news.yahoo.com.

So for now, Haitians can look at the Japanese and feel their pain, because they know all too well what it is like to be where they are. But they also know when time passes, the wounds will begin to heal.